When The World Crumbles All Around You...

My best friend rang me today with an urgent question: "I need to talk with an expert! Tell me please, how do you manage to think positively when the whole world seems to crumble all around you and scater into pieces? Where do you find the energy to deal with it?"

And so I answered: "I give myself a permission to be sad or upset ...when I need so, but I don't dwell on it too long. Then, I pick myself up, dust myself off and start all over again."

My friend responded: "Please allow me to ring you again, because I need the Light you spread around."
I said: "You know that I am always here for you no matter what. Love you."
She felt a bit better. Then, she found just enough strength to emotionally and mentally pick herself up, dust herself off and start all over again.

You see, I did not advise her, I simply answered to her question, which I felt was more effective than giving a lecture on positive thinking. I am also a human with all my pluses and minuses and I do tend to go through lows and highs from time to time as well. Because of that I have learned that the more I resist to allow emotion to pass through me, the bigger and more determine it grows. So I ALLOW IT to Be.

However, it does not mean that you have to throw it onto another Living Being. I can guarantee that pillow would be able to handle your anger or tears and God... Oh, God!! She is the most patient and understanding and giving and a fantastic listener.

I have also realized, that actually it can be very healthy to experience all kind of emotions because that's when most amazing truths and treasures of our inner soul becomes revealed. That's when we learn that we are strong and forgiving; that's when we learn about understanding and tolerance; that's when we bit by bit accept our faults as lessons and eventually stop criticising not only ourselves but others, too.

What happens after you allow the emotion to express itself, you may wonder? Try and you will see... But here is a hint... An amazing peace envelopes your heart and mind, the dark cloud slowly disapears and for the first time (perhaps for the first time) you begin to see things as they truly are.

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