Friday, 29 July 2011
OUR BELIEFS… WHAT IS THEIR TRUE WORTH?
I went down to the kitchen this late afternoon and there I met one of my housemates. Whenever we both meet, we tend to exchange some interesting topics, opinions, and, believe me, that does not happen often even though we do live in the same house.
We got talking and at one point our conversation reached the point where she (my housemate) began telling me how badly she was affected by her parents’ divorce when she was in her late teens (now she is in her late twenties). At that time she found it very hard to deal with the fact that her parents were unhappy together and that they were separating and that even they, children, could not make any positive difference in regards to this matter. She mentioned to me how for two years she went into overdosing on alcohol, endless partying, surrounding herself with not the best people possible in hopes that way to 'numb' her pain, and yet nothing helped. She also mentioned to me that her mother did get married second time and a few years later she got divorced again. Now based on that observation my housemate developed a certain belief.
She said, "I do not believe in marriage, Jolita".
I replied, "Fine. That is your choice. Sometimes myself I wonder why we, people, get married in the first place. Why can't we just live together, share our lives together, love each other, create family together without getting married? Sometimes I just wonder..."
She also mentioned to me that her parents' divorce in some way traumatised her, created certain fears in her and that she dreaded a thought of settling down with anyone long term whatsoever. She said she would not mind being alone for the rest of her life. However, at that very moment, when she was saying these words, her voice trembled, and so I knew it was not something she wished for herself. Furthermore, she strongly insisted to me without me saying a word that she will never get married.
So I replied, "You make your own choices whatever those choices are. Live life the way it feels the best for you. But remember one thing, the time will come when your every belief, especially this one, will be tested by life to the limit, and that's when you will know the real value of your current belief and whether it was worth your energy and attention in the first place".
"I am not afraid," she answered.
"No need to be afraid, but you will be tested and that test we, humans, tend to call Love... Let's see how you will handle this one ;-)"
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Tuesday, 12 July 2011
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Monday, 11 July 2011
INTERVIEW with CALLISTA JANZING – Teacher of Healing Singing, Spiritual Guide and Spiritual Teacher of the Path of the Heart
A couple of months ago while visiting a small town near Bonn in Germany I had a wonderful opportunity to meet someone very special. Her name is Callista Janzing. During one of the special gatherings that I was attending at that time I was sitting by her side. Eventually we got talking and that’s when I learned about what she did. I learned about a Healing Singing – something that I have never heard before. In her true belief, everyone who got a voice can sing. Singing can heal one from within and outside and open one to the new ways of perceiving life and living it, in other words, finding and following the path of your heart.
www.healing-singing.com
www.healing-singing.com
What is Healing Singing?
Healing Singing is a special method, developed by me, to use the voice for the process of *cognition thyself * or for the personal way of (spiritual) development. It allows to come in touch with the own light of the heart, the domicile of the own love and truth, because the voice bares and discloses the true nature of oneself, including everything that constitutes us. The voice is the sound and tone of our personality. It is the most beautiful and entirely existing instrument – and an instrument of self-perception.
Why is that?
The voice bears the own nature in every detail it is composed of and that is entitative and essential. It reveals the inside - the feelings, thoughts, emotions, mind, structure and the own inner being - directly and spontaneously. Via voice the inside is brought to the outside and it becomes perceivable and tangible there. So it is becoming a kind of mirror where oneself can realize oneself, can remember forgotten aspects and integrate them. To the same degree of self-awareness the voice can conduce to accept oneself, to develop ones potential and to clarify possible catenations, connections and adhesions.
Healing Singing renders possible accepting oneself just the way one is now. This allows to recognise self-sabotaging mechanisms, to let them go and to be - free of fear - that one and unique person, who one wants to be by heart.
The specific practices of Healing Singing will awake and flower out the own capability of vibrancy and perception. The experiences and perceptions of Healing Singing make possible to harmonize and to be consistent with ourselves, with the own light, that is anchored in the divine light.
Thereby, it is possible to embrace every experience in life, whether success or failure, lovingly. Thus we can live our everyday life in gladness, humour and buoyant serenity. The voice of our heart grows audible again.
Can anyone sing even if in their deepest knowing they believe or know that they do not have this ability? How do you work around this?
The one who can speak - can also sing. Belief or knowing that one do not have the ability to sing are hints of bounded potential. Everyone has got an expressive voice that allows him to express himself in a very sophisticated and distinguished way. If this capability is bounded through dogmas and believes (for example, „I can´t sing“, „I do not have a melodious voice“...), it can lead to an inharmonious use of one’s voice. So these boundaries often get recognised as a disagreeable phenomenon of the voice. They can be handled by the help of Healing Singing. According to experience, there is a potential hiding behind dogmas or/and a disagreeable phenomenon of the voice that can be transformed, re-integrated and being activated trough the specific practices of Healing Singing. In its transformed shape the former boundary appears expanding the sound.
So to contact the own inner being the own soul will be feasible because clinging renders makes it possible to bring each one of your levels of being out, each one of your bodies, even the ethereal ones, into vibration. This vibration, this sound can be used for *cognition thyself* and to become consistent with the own, true and pristine light.
This kind of voice-experience can turn into the most exciting and fulfilling journey I know: the voyage to oneself.
How do you make a shy or with the low self-esteem person to open up to you?
Every attitude, structure, thoughts, emotions are meaningful and can be used for self development, for tuning into the own mighty power. By welcoming and using everything the person brings: low self-esteem, shyness, fears, a certain reserve - doesn´t matter what, we re-integrate these phenomenon into the voice, using them as a threat back to its source, so we can turn the light and powerful side of each phenomenon on. In that very moment they are integrated into existence and can be used to realise a fulfilled life.
Why Healing Singing? What brought you to doing this kind of work, Callista?
In short: the love to sound, music and mankind. All my life I have been fascinated by the voice and its multiple outlets. I realised the sound of authenticity – or non-authenticity in the voice very early. And I felt deeply attached to and moved by the opportunities I discerned in the voice of every human being. So I began to discover and comprehend the miracles, secrets, mysteries and wonders of the voice, of sound, of tone and their causal relationship to personhood. That lead me to the best and most famous orchestras and choirs of the world, which to lead was very delightful and an honour to me. However, I wanted more than a career as one of the world´s famous conductors. I wanted much more than brilliant technique. I longed for more sound, more tone, more authenticity, and more individual and personal development. And I realised that I had to produce something which allowed to use the sound of the voice or the sound of the instrument to set oneself free from inner limits and restrictions and to release one’s own, original power. This is how, with lots of support and help from above, I created Healing Singing.
In your last answer you said, “However, I wanted more than a career as one of the world´s famous conductors...” You do conducting as well? Could you share more about this please?
Well, of course, it´s a pleasure to me to write about my academic bio in a nutshell. I studied at a music academy and got my diploma in conducting orchestras and choirs and in singing (opera and concert) in 1988. In 1989 I successfully completed an international master class with master’s degree (conducting, singing and acting). Afterwards I got the chance to learn from one of the world´s best Maestros: Sergiu Celibidache. I felt gifted! That took me to work with some of the best orchestras and choirs in the world, in the most beautiful operas and concert halls. Well, let´s say, to a very high level of making music.
All of this, my studies and working with these wonderful orchestras and choirs led me there where I am now - on the one hand, to develop and work with Healing Singing; on the other hand, to develop concepts for companies and entrepreneurs because they can learn a lot from orchestras and, of course, from conductors and their way to lead and run an orchestra. Entrepreneurs, for example, can extend and improve their leadership qualities by getting to know some rules of conducting. However, this is a different subject...
So, you see, Healing Singing is based on a lot of experience and thorough specialised knowledge of music, singing, voice and leadership, enriched and enlarged by the energetic awareness and wisdom of life, values, personal development, sound and voice.
I am aware that many musicians, singers also write their own music and/or words for music. Do you do anything like that?
Writing own music, yes. Setting inspiring words to music is very fulfilling to me. It is a kind of a language for me to express what I perceive within and behind the words, a language that goes directly to the hearts and souls of the receptionists, far beyond thinking, mind and intellect, deep into the layers of being.
What message of inspiration/wisdom could you give to someone looking for the deep spiritual answers in their life?
Listen to you heart. And if you have lost the ability of harking to your heart momentarily or want to improve your skills in listening to your heart, your voice of wisdom, healing and light, do not hesitate to ask Spiritual Guides and Teachers like me for guidance along your spiritual path of light into the awareness of your own wisdom, the voice of your heart, which is inside of you, to guide you in finding your answers.
For every person the way to re-activate the ability of listening to the heart is individual. All these individual ways have something in common - a personal development, including a kind of training in awareness and using the senses in a sensual way. Often the voice of the heart has got to be set free again, because it is buried under and hidden behind dos and don´ts. Dos and don´ts often are the results of socialisation and conditioning. So to become aware of these conditioning and inner assessments is one step. To develop a new handling with them, to change the inner assessment-centre into values that offers inner orientation, like having a reliable compass in any situation, is another step, where you develop the ability to hear the voice of the own heart again. Healing Singing can be a helpful part of this journey. Furthermore, all these ways have in common the knowledge and internalisation of cosmic laws and leading a life in compliance with them – whatever that means for the individual. To find out how to lead a life harmonically with the cosmic laws can be a wonderful journey.
How should one know that it is their heart speaking to them?
Well, you will know it! It will be a crystal clear to you. It will appear as an inner knowledge, deep and unshakable, free from doubts.
I am aware that you do much more than just healing singing or conducting... Callista, do you ever get tired of doing what you are doing?
No, instead of getting tired, I am getting more and more awake. What I do, what I am allowed to do, I find very fulfilling: to guide people on their way to self perception and development; to experience how to use their potential more and more constructively, how to begin loving their lives and finding the meaning of life again. And every client and their way of progress vary a lot and are extremely individual, so every day, every consulting brings something new. I feel blessed to lead a life full of wonderful and touching moments. The fact that I am allowed to experience it every day is a wonder itself. I have got the opportunity to live my calling.
What does motivate you in life?
To live my life to the fullest is the gift in itself. For me that means to live my life, which also includes to live my calling and to celebrate life in everything I do. Well, in other words, to hear, see, feel, smell, taste and honour the wonder and power of Creation and to perceive the love in Creation.
What one has to give up in order to live life of their dreams, of their most personal vision of themselves?
Well, I am guiding lots of people in putting their visions into practice. And the question is why should one give up something? Why should that be? Let me take on some of the possible reasons that come out during consultations very often.
Because of realizing that he or she was following a dream that now appears to be an illusion: It is right, realizing that is not nice, but we are here to dissolve illusions. So to discover illusions is very helpful. Behind illusion we always find our deepest potential.
Because of fear? It can be handled with: there are lots of wonderful holistic consultants, Spiritual Guides and Spiritual Teachers like me to support others in dissolving fears. By the way, fears are kind of normal, especially in times of change. Nelson Mandela said: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." To handle this fear, to accept the own power is one of the most touching things to deal with and a wonderful way to develop oneself.
Because of other requests of life? It can be handled with: try to see everything you do as a step towards fulfilling your dream. This way you will find what fits you and what does not. And what could be more important and bigger than living your life as the one you are by heart?!
Because of inner or outer resistance: Outer resistance shows inner resistance and can be used to prove what you truly want. No outer resistance can get you away from leading your own life, if you don't want to. And inner resistance can be used constructively to get aware of One’s Self, to get to know different possibilities of being and acting. It is part of being human. You know, success is what follows, and what follows your every step that you take is believing that you are what you want to be, believing in yourself and taking all the necessary steps and changes in your life to put that into practice. Never give up. Go slowly but steadily. If you think it is too hard to do it alone, get help. We are getting a teacher for every talent, for every skill, for every gift we want or choose to develop. No one has to do it all by themselves, all alone.
Is that how you walk on your path?
In my own responsibility? Yes.
Using everything as a challenge and as a hint that shows lots of information if one can read it? Yes.
Facing life in a constructive way because Creation is constructive only? Yes.
Celebrating life in every moment? Yes.
Embracing life – and my life? Yes.
Being well guided? Yes. And I feel blessed to have a spiritual teacher, who is able to guide me, to inspire me and to support me in going my own way and in showing myself as the being I really am. Moreover, I feel blessed to be able to share this wonderful gift I have received from Creation with the ones who want to be guided on their path of the heart.
I like this saying - Celebrate Your Life. What a powerful statement. How do you celebrate your life, Callista?
I celebrate my life by being grateful for every new, wonderful day and every morning, by being grateful for every wonderful night and every evening, by accepting every thing, every experience, every situation that come my way as a self-chosen gift to remind me about myself. To understand myself as the powerful and mighty being I am and live my life according to this. I choose to look for a solution to every problem that I encounter, to see the love, wonders and wisdom of Creation in every being, in every thing, to see the meaning of life, to feel being worthy only because I am.
~Jolita Kelias
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Sunday, 3 July 2011
I simply LOVE YOU
Do you need any specific reason to love someone? Do you need a permission to love? Do you need to wait for a certain time and place before you can love? Can you love one day and not love the other? These are questions I hear others more and more often asking me…
I have noticed that people often tend to question the other person’s feelings and intentions. If you tell them I Love You, at times they tend not to believe you and it is not because you do not love them but because inside of themselves they feel they are not worthy of your love or simply because they themselves do not feel ready to open to the power of love... I have also noticed that love as a matter is not easily accepted in peoples’ circles. Instead they choose to give different names to it – friendship, kindness, partnership, thoughtfulness, compassion, sympathy, liking… However, the truth is that all of this springs from Love.
When I tell someone (anyone and everyone I feel love for) I Love You, I mean exactly that. Do I need reasons to love? Since then? Sometimes some of them tell me: “But why? I have done nothing special for you. I have been so little in your life, why do I deserve this love of yours?” And I answer: “Talk to my Heart, she might be able to answer to your question, but do not ask me. I simply do.”
The Love that often springs with full power through me cannot be described in words, but only felt. I express it in the form of joy, laughter, hugging, support and help, my own presence in that person’s life… It becomes clearly visible in me and around me. Love is so powerful and so beautiful. It has so many forms and so many limitless ways to be brought out and shown in the broad daylight. It does not necessary need to be translated into a sexual form, and yet this is one of the magnificent forms of Love that can be welcomed and expressed lovingly at any given moment. Every form of Love as long as it is supported with free will and free choosing is profound and meaningful.
I Am Love. You Are Love. We Are Love. Show it. Express it. Do not wait until the right moment comes. Be that moment now and here. Forget about what others might think of you or might not. Awake to the Love inside of you. You are so beautiful, and I simply Love You.
~by Jolita Kelias
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Saturday, 2 July 2011
Wisdom of the Child
I remember very clearly, when I was a little child, who could not speak much or express herself well enough, I felt I knew so much. The whole understanding of life was in front of me, I was fearless, I had no doubts and I lived my knowing. I enjoyed my life. Then within time passing and me growing I have become more and more frustrated as I started to recognise that within time I began forgetting the truths I knew and things started looking much complicated. I felt I was losing myself in the world of people. I felt I began knowing less, I began understanding and feeling less, I became less...
The truth is that when I was little I understood and knew and felt a lot, I just did not have ability and/or enough words and ways to express that knowledge, so as a child I simply lived what I knew and felt. Now as an adult I am remembering how to be and do it all over again. My inner child is alive more and more with every new day, and, my my, I do not supress it. Some people tend to say to me: “Your friendliness and happiness can be often misunderstood, Jolita”. And then I answer to them: “If you truly want to understand me correctly, then put some effort into that, and the best way in doing so is by allowing your inner child to come alive. Don’t try to reason me, because I follow my feelings more than my thinking. My inner child is alive. My inner child is living and enjoying and most importantly loving Life and You.”
My desire and aim is to go back to that beautiful innocence of the child I once was, and I am walking on my path…quite well ;-)
The grand truth is children are extremely wise and they can be the best teachers of all if we only allow this. Adults gotta learn and remember quite a lot from them. I welcome you to embrace this knowledge and message, for it is freeing and true.
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Friday, 1 July 2011
Say YES to Life
I had an interesting phone conversation with a wonderful friend of mine who called me looking for someone to soothe her heart. She seemed very concerned about her upcoming future, finances, and other few things. She said she was trying to surrender to Life and let Life take care of her and her affairs; however she did not know what ways Life chose to help, how it expressed itself... Some time in the middle of her talking I gave a suggestion to her to become fully open to Life, to say Yes to Life more often. She did not seem to understand me…
She also mentioned how lonely and alone she felt. She felt that the only person she could really rely on was me, and others did not seem to be there for her. She said she wanted Life to help her, she asked for help many times but it did not seem to respond to her plea…
I listened to her for a while in silence and then taken by impulse I spoke:
“Ok, let’s see…” I said. “Is there anything I could do for you?”
“Your presence here would be more than enough. I just would love to hug you, my friend.” She answered.
“Do you want me to grab my suitcase and come to see you for the weekend?” I suggested.
“What?! Are you crazy?! You would go all this way just to hug me, so I would not feel pity for myself? I would love you here, but I definitely would not allow you to travel all this way for me. I am not that selfish, Jolita,” she went on and on…
Once she got quiet, I asked: “Is there any other way I could be of help to you? Is there anything else I could do for you?”
“No no, don’t pay attention to what I say, it is just one of my weak moments…”
And then I interrupted her…
“Look,” I said, “remember, I talked about saying Yes to Life, didn’t I?”
“Yes.”
“So, my Dear, you have said No to Life before it even could proceed. How can you be helped or supported if every time you rush to say No?”
“What do you mean by that? I don’t remember saying No to Life. I have been asking Life to help me my whole life and so far it does not seem to hear me…” She seemed confused.
And then I replied, “Sweetie, I am Life. Life spoke through me and it is still speaking through me right now. You rejected me when all I wanted was to answer to your plea. You said No to me – to Life – before I could even do anything. How can I help you, if you push me away?”
And that’s where finally the silence on her side began…
“How do you expect Life to come and help you? Do you think there is a tall man with white hair and white beard sitting somewhere up there who perhaps one day or perhaps not will appear to you and release you from all your worries? Don’t worry, death will do that for sure, but in the meantime there are other tools/instruments that Life chooses to express itself through. One of those tools is People. Let people help you, give people a pleasure to be there for you, do not deny their love for silly stereotypes or unnecessary believes that you have taken upon yourself throughout your life. Do yourself and others a favour - stop thinking that you are someone’s inconvenience. You do like to help others, to give yourself fully and you appreciate when others accept it, don’t you? So why then reject support and love from others? You cannot give all the time, the glass needs to be filled as much as emptied, so you could give and receive, and the only way to do this is by accepting Life’s gifts.”
Silence continued on her side for quite some time, and I stayed silent too. After a few minutes I heard her voice: “Well, I guess, I better go to the garden and enjoy my afternoon in the sunshine. Thank you. I finally understood…”
~by Jolita Kelias
~by Jolita Kelias
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